telling you that you have apparently no idea of how something works is not rude, it's just a statement.
I've never told you you were rude, but i did think out loud that you can be a pain at some times (yes, this is rude, but i have to say it because you don't seem to notice it by yourself and it could help you in the future in maybe modifying your behaviour on the forum to be less perceived as a pain, so really, i'm trying to help you here).
Matching some traditions was an EXEMPLE of the reasons that could lead to a small change or addition of a small element into the set, but OF COURSE, you pick the ONE CHANGE that has nothing to do with tradition and tell me "but this has nothing to do with tradition"... Seriously ? Can't you see it ?
Last words on this, cause i've said everything i wanted to : the fact that can't seem to see the reason people loose their patience around you doesn't mean that "we"'re being mean for "no reason" like you say ; put yourself into perspective, reexamine the situations, think it over. A dozen of members can't stay calm around you, and are perfectly correct most of the times with every other members they come accross, some of them, including me, since the creation of this forum 7 years ago. But there is something about you that drives them crazy ! So don't say "no reason", look for the reason if you can't see it at first. You seem to be good at digging. Hints : it's not because you like cats, it's not because you don't like some songs, it's not because she hasn't won any Grammy so far... It's more of an attitude / behaviour thing...