One thing that I am wondering about is, why is it that, on this board, the song "Ur So Gay" is so popular? That song was not a hit on any chart anywhere on the world, but it seems that it is very popular on this board. Whenever I express my dislike of the song (even when I make it clear that I have nothing against anyone who enjoys the song), I tend to be given a hard time. Yet others who post about songs that they dislike (including Katy's major hits, and songs with positive messages) are not given similar treatment.
The reason why the popularity of that song surprises me so much is because it contradicts the message in most of Katy's other songs. Most of Katy's songs have messages about being yourself and accepting who you are. Ur So Gay, on the other hand, attacks and ex-boyfriend for not living up to arbitrary gender norms, and goes so far as to tell him to commit suicide, implying that his life is not worth living. I know people here say not to take Ur So Gay seriously, but suicide is not something to joke about. Since most of us like most of Katy's songs, most of us would agree with Katy's message of self-acceptance from most of her other songs, which makes it surprising that Ur So Gay would be so popular. The song One of the Boys implies that during Katy's early life, she herself did not live up to arbitrary gender stereotypes.
I am interested in hearing from both men and women, and both gay, straight, and bisexual people why it is that you like the song Ur So Gay.
Before I go into more detail, I do want to say that a great strength of Katy is the diversity of her songs. Unlike many other artists, no two of Katy's songs are the same. On her Prism album alone, there are many different unique musical styles. However, the flip side to this diversity is that it also means that even a big fan of Katy is likely to dislike at least some of her songs. For example, I seriously doubt that Katy would expect By the Grace of God, and Peacock, to appeal to the same audience.
Several straight female members of this board have said that they like to sing Ur so Gay to or about ex-boyfriends. My question is: how would you feel if an ex-boyfriend was singing that song to or about you? Would you accept it, or would it make you angry? If it makes you angry, then why the double standard?
Similarly, if instead of Katy, it was sung by a male singer, and was attacking an overly masculine ex-girlfriend, would you support the song? Or would you argue that it was offensive? If the later, then why the double standard?
Now, my question for the straight male members of the board who like this song: why do you like it? I am a straight male. Remember, this song is attacking her ex-boyfriend (obviously a straight male) for not living up to arbitrary gender norms. We are exactly the type of people that the song is attacking! In fact, I consider labeling a straight male who does not fit arbitrary gender stereotypes to be "gay" to be the absolute worst form of bullying, since when somebody like myself stands up for myself and asserts that I am not gay, I am labeled as homophobic. By asserting that I am not gay, I am not trying to say that there is anything wrong with being gay or that being gay is somehow undesirable, just that I myself am not gay.
I have dealt with this kind of bullying both in school and on my job. For those of you who are still in school: I am sorry to tell you that bullying in the workplace is far worse than anything you have ever experienced in school. I have to deal with coworkers telling me that the music I listen to is "gay" (they don't even know that I'm a fan of Katy), that the TV shows I watch are "gay", that activities that I enjoy doing are "gay", and even that the route I take to work is "gay". The entire time that I've worked for this company, even before I was married, I was in a serious relationship with a woman, so they know very well that I am straight. Yet, as I mentioned, all I can do is just accept the bullying, and there is not a thing I can do about it. Society expects straight men to just suffer in silence and just keep our mouths shut when we are being attacked. Yet I feel that the Internet is the one place where we can "find our inner roar", and stand up for ourselves and let our feelings be known (for that matter, why does just about every media source in existence consider Roar to be a female empowerment anthem, even though Katy herself has said that she intended the song for both genders?). Even if it's something as simple as expressing a dislike of one Katy Perry song from nearly 7 years ago that was never a hit and is not like any of Katy's other songs, no matter how much I assert that fact that I otherwise have great respect for Katy, and that I consider most of her music to be among the best of the current era.
Again, I want to know why the straight male members of this board enjoy that song so much? Part of me wonders if you are just so desensitized to the bullying, and have just accepted that you have to accept the bullying in silence, that you are desensitized to the hate in that song.
My next question is for gay and bisexual men and women: although I understand that the song is not intended to be anti-gay, why do you like that song so much, even though it implies that being gay is somehow negative, given that it uses the word "gay" as an insult toward a straight man? Doesn't that imply that being gay is a negative? Or do you not see it that way? I do know that Katy did win an award for her song Firework reducing suicide in the gay community (deservedly so; I am sure anyone who reads my posts knows how much I like that song and its video). But how do you feel about the fact that 3 years earlier, Katy had a song which encouraged someone to commit suicide (the fact that it was targeted at a straight male shouldn't matter)?
A few other aspects about the song that make no sense whatsoever: it attacks the guy for driving an electric car, yet Katy recently bought electric cars for several of her staff members. Is Katy saying only women should drive electric cars? If so, are all of he staff members she gave the cars to female? And, what about the line about the guy needing SPF 45 just to stay alive? Are men not supposed to use sunscreen? Assuming that Katy uses sunscreen, does she feel only women should be allowed to use it? Does she feel that men with skin cancer are sexy?
The one thing all of us on this board agree is that Katy has a very beautiful voice. Katy's voice is the one redeeming factor that Ur So Gay has. Admittedly, her voice does sound very nice in that song. But there is nothing unique or special about her voice in that song. Even if one just wants to listen to a song just to appreciate the aesthetic beauty of her voice, there are plenty of other songs with positive or at least neutral messages that one can choose. It's not as if it's the one song that shows off the beauty of her voice (I have posted in other threads which songs I feel best show off the beauty of Katy's voice).
Again, I want to hear people's thoughts on this song. I am not trying to start any arguments, but rather to share my opinion on this song, and to try to learn why others like this song so much. I want to be open minded and try to understand opinions that don't mirror my own.